A break from the world

Therefore, we choose some alone time. Quality time, as I call it. During this episode we get unplugged from all sources, we re-connect with nature, we slow everything down and we come to understand our own selves better.

    At times, all of a sudden, we shut away from people. We barely answer the phone, ignore messages, have no will for human contact. Some people would call us thick-skinned, others call us f*ck-off-ers, others call us distant; others could even go that far in believing we could live like this forever. People see this as a sign of being cocky. But there are very few wondering why are we doing this. It’s easier to point a finger instead of asking, in a short text, if everything is OK.

    They don’t understand this is not permanent. Is just a break from the world. A complete cut-off, for personal recharge. From any angle, the perception is similar: we’re avoiding everyone. And, in fact, that is exactly what we do. Be it for a day, a week, a month or even several months in a row. Because we need it! Because we’ve been put down so many times and we’ve come to realize the only one we can truly trust is hidden within ourselves. Because we need to figure out the next step, without being judged.

 Therefore, we choose some alone time. Quality time, as I call it. During this episode we get unplugged from all sources, we re-connect with nature, we slow everything down and we come to understand our own selves better; we get the chance to learn stuff and sketch a dream; we get to do what we like; we get to think clearly; we take our time to get rid of unhealthy thoughts, to cry and heal our wounds, to gather our forces and rise again, leaving behind a trace of burning ashes. We get to – fully – mind our own business, without interference. And without the need to answer the everlasting question “Why?” Just looking for balance…

    Catching your breath, away from the world, is refreshing… I experience this every time… 

    Love,
    A.

Independence and troubleshooting

It’s not always easy. In fact, most of the times is harder than you can imagine… (…) One of the most rewarding aspect of independence is not following the masses.

             Independence always comes with a cost. Be it in money or personal efforts. But it’s always worth it, as everything you do is based on your own decisions, no one else’s. You are compelled to figure everything out and this will always help you grow. If a decision is wrong, at least you know it’s all on your shoulders, but you get the best chance to learn from it. There’s no need to explain how come you did that or that. Is YOU the one that takes all responsibility for it. And make it right, if applicable.

[listen to: Ella Vos – You Don’t Know About Me (R3hab Remix)]

It’s not always easy. In fact, most of the times is harder than you can imagine. However, once you have things taking the shape you want or need them, you can say “I’m proud that I managed to solve that!” The satisfaction is 100% genuine and you get that feeling of complete freedom and happiness.

And there’s nothing holding you back. You do everything standing tall! People caring for you cheer your attitude, the others envy your strength. The more you accomplish, the more you realize how much you can take, how much can your shoulders carry. And this will always keep you going. Forwards! Never backwards, ’cause you can never go back once you’re reached this mindset.

One of the most rewarding aspect of independence is not following the masses, but using your own mind to look at things; understanding the flow of things/ events, but believing only what suits you; accepting that things around you may happen in a different manner than you may desire, still following only what you are convinced that is good. If you believe that something can be changed for the good with your help, fight for it. By all means! Don’t be afraid to stand alone, if circumstances require!

Nonetheless, you should consider the downsides:

  • you may become careless to other people;
  • you may forget what you left behind;
  • you may be willing to walk on bodies to achieve your goals;
  • you may become self-sufficient;
  • you may reach a stage of recklessness.

My advice to avoid this?

  • Keep you feet well stuck to the ground;
  • Never deny your flaws;
  • Help others as often as you can (regardless if is just with a good thought);
  • Keep a healthy opinion of yourself, without becoming arrogant;
  • Ask for help – don’t be ashamed/ too stubborn to admit you’re not “Mr./Mrs. Know-It-All”;
  • Learn something new everyday.

Bottom line: heads up! You can do it! You need, however, to keep 2 things in mind: scale all possibilities (on both gain and waste sides) and be ready to take chances. Know that, by the time you have flown away from this world, you left a valuable trace behind you!

Love,
A.